Are you plagued with self doubt? Do you sometimes struggle to forgive yourself? Do you doubt your dreams? You’re not alone. I’ve had the privilege of traveling around the world working with wonderful people from all different backgrounds. One of the most common things they tell me is that they struggle with self doubt. There are ways to overcome that and gain the confidence and competence that you desire.
What’s the Best Part of Traveling
I feel so blessed. Why? We have the privilege opportunity to travel around the world and we love having these incredible experiences. But the best part of traveling is meeting new people. And it’s been so wonderful to literally meet with thousands of people from different countries, different cultures, and different backgrounds.
It has been my privilege and opportunity to mentor a lot of people and to counsel and advise them because of my life experiences and my studies of personal development for over 20 years now. I have been studying voraciously to find clues, success leaves clues, and to find strategies that really work. As I have grown that process, people approach me and share their lives, challenges, and struggles with me. And I count that as a sacred privilege.
Do You Lack a Belief in Yourself?
One of the things I have noticed a lot is the lack of belief. In other words, a lot of people lack a belief in themselves! They don’t believe they can do it and they lack confidence and conviction and what’s called self-esteem. And this really breaks my heart.
Therefore, I want to really encourage you to believe in yourself. Believe in your greatness! I believe every person on this earth is special. I believe that there is a spark of greatness in each of us. I believe that every single person has something special to share with others.
You have a special work that only you can do!
And I want you to know –even though I don’t know you personally– that you are special, that I love you, that God loves you and that you have greatness in you.
✔Believe in your dreams!
✔Believe in your possibility to change!
✔Believe in your possibility to grow!
✔Believe in your possibility to improve!
⌲Be very strict on making changes and becoming your very best self but also be kind to yourself and don’t beat yourself up.
Believe in your chance to be great and in your chance to live a life that is meaningful. How you do that? You need simply to switch your thinking habits which give you a negative energy all the time by new positive thinking habits and patterns. Get the negativity out of your mind and you are ready to improve yourself.
Do you ever find yourself doubting that you’ll be able to achieve your dreams? Too many of us have fallen victim to defeatism. It’s time to stop that; it’s time to start believing in your dreams again. Find out how to shift your mindset and believe in yourself.
Have You Ever Given Up On a Dream?
Have you ever given up on a dream? Like you had something you really wanted to do and then you suddenly gave up and thought that your dream is impossible. Because life comes alone and you think you have to be ‘responsible’ for your duties and set aside your dreams. Well, I think a lot of us have felt the same way. And I also think that too many of us are defeatists.
a person who expects or is excessively ready to accept failure.
demonstrating expectation or acceptance of failure.
It is so tragic as I go out and meet people I find too many of them have given up hope on their dreams and their goals.
I Believe in Your Own Dreams. Do you?
We use the word ‘impossible’ too much and we are pretty quick to believe in other people’s dreams and then to down our own. We do that too often and we use the word impossible too often. We threw down any hope of doing something great, something spectacular, and of living an exceptional life. Moreover, a lot of us think that we have to fit in with the hurt and the massive and that this is how life should be.
But I want to challenge you to think unconventionally. I want to challenge you to dream. If you have stopped dreaming, I want you to come back! Come back to the dream side.
I actually believe in your own dreams! I believe that you can achieve them with hard work. And I believe that you have something amazing to offer the world! So go after your dreams! And if people say that it is impossible, remember the stories of so many people who have broken what was impossible.
And talking about breaking the impossible, I highly encourage you to read the amazing book “Unbroken” by Laura Hillenbrand. It is about what human being can accomplish.
I Broke the Impossible and You can Do That Too!
Another example of breaking the impossible is my own life! I grew up in a broken home and I was out on my own in an early age. I didn’t have all these elements and resources to become successful, I didn’t have the network, I didn’t have the money, I didn’t have the backing, I didn’t have the support, I didn’t have the family, I didn’t have the right education and I didn’t have any of that stuff. And yet, I live a wonderful life with my wife and our six children! We are literally living our dreams. But we made it happen. I mean it didn’t happen by default. In other words, we found out what needed to be done to live life on our terms and we went and did it. And you can do the same thing! If I can do it you can do it!
Don’t be a defeatist, be a believer! Get up and believe in your dreams and then work on them every day. And hold on! Don’t expect that you will achieve your dreams if you keep doing the same thing over and over. You can’t expect different results by doing the same things, you have to make some changes. And you have to change you! Because as you get better, everything in your life gets better.
So make those changes, become a better person, change your circumstances, change your vision, rekindle that fire in you and that spark in you again and build something awesome!
It’s great to have nice things. There are so many wonderful inventions that make our lives so much better. If it edifies you and brings real value to your life, then keep it. If not, maybe you should consider living without it. Living simply makes a difference.
You Actually Own Nothing
I am Greg DENNING, the author and creator of “Get Out and Live”“How to Create a Life That Really Matters” and “The Five Fundamental Factors for a Fantastic Life”.
A great story in the new Testament where a rich young ruler comes to Jesus and says: “Master what do I need to do to be saved?”
And Jesus says to him: “You need to keep the commandments”
And he named the commandments and the rich young ruler said: “ I have done these in my youth. What lack I yet?”
And Christ responds to him specifically: “Sell all that thou hast and give to the poor”. And the rich young ruler went away sorrowing because he had many great possessions.
I’m not exactly sure what all of this means and there may be multiple meanings but here is what I know.Being ATTACHED to stuff and to things, PREVENTS us from making PROGRESS in our lives. Whether that’s spiritually, physically, emotionally, financially or in our relationships. Being attached to things can cause problems. There is a Chinese saying that says:
“I never saw the rise of the moon, so well until my house burned down”
Once you are free from that, you will see better. Things are great and I do love things. I love having nice clothes, I love my MacBook, I like cameras and lighting systems.. and there is a lot of great stuff in the world, but we have got to be careful how much of that we bring into our lives. And more importantly, we’ve got to be careful how attached we get to them.
You really CAN’T own anything! Because when you die and leave this life, you are not taking anything with you EXCEPT WHO YOU HAVE BECOME. That includes knowledge, experiences, characteristics, values, beliefs and understandings. Everything else that is physical remains. And that is aprofound lessonfor all of us, everything is temporary and we are just taking care of it for a time.
So how that does change things for you?
You really CAN’T own anything. Does that shift your mindset now about how you feel toward things?
-Bertrand Russell- said:
“It is the preoccupation with possession more than any other thing that prevents men and women from living freely and nobly”.
So what do you become when you are attached to possessions?
How to Be Detached From Ownership
You need to learn how to detached from that kind of ownership that ties us to something. Eventually, you get to a point where your possessions possess you. And you don’t own things because they own you because you end up giving all of your time, effort, energy, money, and resources to taking care of your stuff. And that brings us to an idea of having sufficient for your needs. And I am not about getting rid of everything because I know that there are some good things that bring real value into our lives.
I can never judge or tell a person what is sufficient for their needs We just can’t do that. But I can wholeheartedly and without reservation encourage and challenge everyone to live simply, to live freely and to live without the burden of possessions and to try to reclaim your life and break away from being consumed by consumerism.
There is a great example of this in the great book “Les Misérables” by -Victor Hugo- the priest in the beginning who is an absolutely incredible man. The first 100 pages describe how a great man he was. It says that large sums of money passed through his handsbut it did not change the way he lived. He stayed with a simple life doing good and serving and so he was able to let all of that abundance come in through his life without changing the life of simplicity that he had chosen. He wanted to live purely, fully and meaningfully.
Here’s a Challenge for You
I want to challenge you today, and this could be tough, to get rid of anything and everything in your life that you keep because of status or ego. And learn to eliminate anything that is unnecessary from your life. Remove anything from your life that tears you down, that is holding you back and distracting you from living with purpose. And this gets to anything or anyone that brings negative energy to your life, or anything that makes too many demands on your time, attention, your feelings, your attitude and even your stress level. A lot of people are stressed out because they live in a constant state of fear or worry about their things. But if they would remove all of that then life would be so rich and fulfilling.
So start today, grab something that is ATTACHED to your ego or your status, something that is just taking too much, and if it is not edifying your life, if it is not blessing your life and your family, and if it’s not adding real value to your life, then have the courage to get rid of it.
Start today to clear the path, get the obstacles out of the way so you can really move forward without that extra load. And get to where you are free to focus on what you want your major purpose to be in life.
Learn From Gandhi
Gandhi did that so well. He had so few possessions and ironically he had far less than the people he served. And that is because there is a difference between living simply and being poor. Poverty is a mentality and a lot of people think that if I have few things then I am poor. Gandhi chose to live simply so that he could focus on serving the people. And look what he did for billions and we are still talking about him today, and yet he had so few material positions.
I don’t think that all of us should get rid of all of our stuff and go out and live that ultimate simplicity, although there may be some of you that want to do that and if that desire is in your heart then go make it happen.
But otherwise, I just challenge you and invite you again to get down to a minimum level. It’s like things pile up to the point where you can’t see because they block your view. We need to bring them back down so that you can have a clear and proper perspective of the world and of life and to clear away the rubble and the clutter out of the way so that you can take off running in the direction of an EPIC life that is so exciting and fulfilling for you.
We have become experts in acquiring more stuff but completely incompetent to be able to use value and enjoy what we already have.
We can minimize. So many people have done it and it’s hard but once they drop that extra load, life becomes so much better. Some people even say that they don’t even care about their stuff anymore and life is so much more enjoyable because they don’t even have to think about their stuff and they can focus more on their children, and service, and on what really matters most.
Bertrand Russell also said:
“To be without some of the things you want is indispensable part of happiness”
There is also a Swedish proverb that says:
“He who buys what he does not need, steals from himself”
Again, keep what you really need and the rest give it away.
Attachment to stuff is a cage that keeps a bird from soaring to freedom.
I want to give you another challenge. I sincerely think that everyone at some point ought to move away from what they know and from where their comfortable and just break away. And move to another country or city or just move to another place. Go somewhere else where you don’t have your status and things, and for some time, you can even disconnect from technology. I don’t want to be extreme because I love iPad’s, iPhones, the internet and all of these wonderful things we have. But it’s started to overcrowd our lives so we have to be able to disconnect and have quiet time. I challenge you to just leave it and go away. Break away from that a little while and just live with who you are and see how it opens your vision and understanding and changes the way you view things.
Again, I challenge you to focus on what matters most, remove the clutter and live deliberately. Don’t let it jeopardize your relationships and your purpose. And don’t die with your song inside you because you were distracted by things and stuff.
Ivan Illich who I’ve mentioned before was trying to keep up with social expectations and had spent his whole life trying to get the things, status, and recognition. Ironically he died while trying to impress people. He fell and got hurt and on his deathbed he asked what if my whole life has been wrong? He is a fictional character but there was a real woman who spent her life with all her nice things and her house was so fabulous that she didn’t want her children or grandchildren to come over because she was so concerned that they would break things. Later, she found out that she had a terminal illness. She regretted so much about carrying a lot about her stuff and things and neglecting the ones she loves the most.
So let’s not do that. Let’s create and design a wonderful life and let’s not get the barnacles on us like a huge ship so that we can’t just really move forward or cage ourselves in our things.
Go out and create your world. Get rid of something today, get down to a minimalist level where you can see clearly, where your path is clear and you can move forward to the direction of your DREAMS. REACH UPWARD!
I’ve lived through some really tough times. There was a time my future didn’t look very bright. But I built my life from the bottom up. You have the power to design and create a life you love. Life is hard, but you can, and you must, succeed anyways. Greatness is in you. Never give up. Keep pushing forward. Push past the difficulty until you become great!
You Are Not the Exception
Life can be really tough! I want to tell you that I really do know that life can sometimes be really hard! I know that it is hard to stay in shape, it is hard to stay positive and sometimes it is even hard to be happy! I do understand all that! Growth is uncomfortable.
But here’s one thing that I don’t want us to ever do: the exception!
Do not ever give yourself a chance to say “Hey, this is hard for me, I am an EXCEPTION! The others are just lucky!” That is a very dangerous place to be in and I don’t want any of you ever to go there!
I am always happy , always smiling , always optimistic and I don’t have an on-air personality or an off-air personality. I don’t put out a smile for the camera, what you see is what you get. Because I LOVE LIFE and I have a lot of energy. And this is how I live.
But I wasn’t born like this, it didn’t come naturally for me! I earned it!! And it was really hard.
You may not believe me, but I grew up in a broken home and I was totally the opposite of me right now. I struggled a lot and I went through some really tough times. That is why I had to change!
I want to tell you that you and I have the power to shape our lives, our characters, and our personality to what and who we want to become. Well, nothing was easy for me at the beginning but I had to fight for it and I Earned it.
“The more we persist in doing something, the easier it becomes for us. Not that the nature of the thing changes, but that our power to do is increased”.
You Have the Ability!
We have the ability to do whatever we want!
I know that’s hard because I have been there. But I paid the price to gain the qualities that I want in my life! And I keep paying the price so that I can maintain those qualities and have an excellent standard of living.
The question that you may ask is how you are going to do all this?
Well, in my case, with God’s help, with a lot of great books and with some really tough uncomfortable experiences; I was able to shape my life and I am still doing it today. Because I am not in my very best yet and I want to be better. I know I still have more to reach my potential and I am going for it.
When an obstacle or a challenge show up in my life, I decide to face it because I know that this challenge will help me to grow.
So you can shape your life like you can shape your muscles. You can shape your mental habits and your morning routines. And that’s all in your power!
And very often, where the pain is the power is!
I want to tell you that if I can do it, you TOTALLY CAN DO IT!
You have that power and potential but just decide. Yes, it is hard and tough, but I am going to do it anyway! Because I want more!
The Choice is Yours. You Can Either Move Forward or Backward
You can have and become whatever you want to become, the choice is yours.
Just because it’s difficult that gives us no excuse! We go FORWARD anyway!
Don’t ever say that’s just the way I am. Noway! Throw that thing out of the window! You can reshape your life, character, and personality. You can certainly recreate every part of your life.
You have the power to take every aspect and characteristic of your life and shape it into greatness!
You have the power to become who you want to become! So decide to be really happy, really optimistic and have great relationships.
Fill your mind, soul, spirit and body with happiness.
Clearly, identify how you want to live and who you want to become and start making it happen TODAY!
No matter your past, no matter your obstacles, no matter your circumstances, you have the power to create a life you love! Life is what YOU make it! Let me help you design and create a meaningful and fulfilling life that you will look back on with joy and gratitude. Here’s a video that may literally change your life forever.
How I End Up With an Amazing Life!
I want to clearly establish one thing. Whatever you passed, whatever your circumstances and whatever your obstacles you can create an AMAZING LIFE! If you are not truly really happy, something has got to change.
I am Greg Denning. I am an officer speaker, an entrepreneur, a mentor and a life coach. I live an AMAZING LIFE, though I grew up in a broken home! I was all on my own in an early age and life was really tough for me. I went through some really hard times. And I do remember the frustration of knowing that life could be so much better, but not knowing what to do!!
And we will jump forward today, now, I live a FANTASTIC LIFE I have a beautiful wife, we have six wonderful kids and I have so many good relationships. And together we travel the world. Yes! We travel the WORLD! Our LIFE is truly AMAZING!
I want to assure you, that you can build a fantastic life! Because, if I can do it, YOU CAN DO IT TOO! If I can go from where I was into where I am now, then SO CAN YOU!!
Life Was Meant to be Fantastic. Here’s How!
Life was meant to be absolutely fantastic! And there are steps that you can do in order to make that fabulous life.
So here’s what I want you to do:
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Wherever you are in your journey right now, I want to help you to take your life to the highest level.
I will certainly help you:
To live on purpose,
To reach your full potential,
And to rock it at peak performance.
You have the POWER to LIVE life on your TERMS!
You DON’T have to settle for a HUMDRUM existence!
You can DESIGN and CREATE an AMAZING life!
AWESOME is always an option! So let’s take this journey together and let’s start today to build the LIFE of your DREAMS!