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Fortify Your Family Part 2 – REDUCE

Do you ever feel like you just don’t have enough time, energy, resources, etc to adequately fortify your family? You’re not alone!
One the best things you can do to strengthen you family is to REDUCE!
In this video, I discuss the benefits of and the effective ways to reduce all the excess in your life–from clutter to commitments; from devices to people, to schedules, and more.
Unburdening your family from unnecessary distractions will bring a power and a peace and a freedom that will do wonders for your relationships!

Prioritizing Is the Righ Way

Too many of us are just pulled in so many directions therefore, we feel we don’t have enough energy, time and don’t have the resources to do what we want to do. But the truth is, you can do anything you want but you can’t do everything you want to do. You have to prioritize and choose.

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Too many of us get going with stuff and things and forgetting that everything we have takes up time, energy, effort and attention. Thus, I invite you to look at all your stuff and all your consistent habits and then prioritize them. Set up rules and boundaries about how much each family member is going to use a specific habit -or stuff- and then keep it at a minimum. Actually, some of the things may even have to go and your TV may be one of those things.

My invitation is to list out all the things you have that are consistently taking attention and time and say which ones can be reduced and which ones can be eliminated.

Family Is What Matters Most

Another thing that’s plugging people is expenses or bills. About this a great book called “Lifeonaire” by Shaun McCloskey and Steve Cook which I highly recommend. The principle of the book is to reduce your bills and reduce this idea of ‘keeping up with the Joneses’ and having more and more stuff. The book says as you reduce your stuff and your expenses, it lowers stress and frees up time to live more intentionally and more purposefully.

Family is what matters most! Too often we think that this is for our family and so we acquire all these things and we work all the time but really what the family needs most is you. They need you to be present, they need you to be giving your very best to them and not just your very best to work.

Therefore, simplify your schedules, reduce all the things and the distractions and get that down to a comfortable minimum. Again, all these things can be very good but they have got to be prioritized and scheduled with boundaries and limitations so that they are adding real value to your life and not taking you away from what you really want most.

Last but not least, you need to eliminate all the negativity from your life. Any input that doesn’t fit with your highest family values needs to be eliminated.

Again my challenge is to do something today. Identify clearly what are the limitations and the boundaries, reduce, get rid of what needs to, and make sure that everything in your life is there because you wanted it there and because it brings real value to your life.

REACH UPWARD!

Greg

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You’re Too Lop-sided; How to Be a Well Rounded Person

Are you strong in one or two areas and weak in many others? I know that’s how I felt for a lot of years until I realized that I needed to become a well-rounded person.
If we only work on a few aspects of ourselves, we can become lopsided like a volleyball or soccer ball with a blown out seam. It just won’t work right.
In order to thrive and survive; to live successfully and happily, you and I neeballd to be well-rounded in our personal growth and performance.
That includes education, travel, perspective, emotional mastery, spirituality, and relationships.

The Lopsided Ball

I love sports, I love playing ball, and I grew up playing volleyball, football, and baseball. Overall, I love competition and having fun while playing any kind of sport. But this is not actually the main topic. Then what are you talking about right?

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Well, while playing a kind of sport that require a ball, several times the ball smashed and gets a little lop-sided. And deflated-ballguess what? You can’t play with a lopsided ball. And this leads us to the important thing here. Too many of us are like lopsided balls!

Imagine this with me. We  all want to grow and expand and become our very best selves right? We are like this whole center and we are trying to grow from the center and expand out in order to become bigger and better. But, a lot of us are expanding from one area which makes it unbalanced and lopsided. Thus, I want to challenge you to expand in every direction from the center and from your core.  As we grow and expand, we need to grow in everything.

It Is Not the Way It Is

Just because the way it is in your little world you think ‘that’s the way it is’. Well, there are so many different things outside your world as well as so many different ways to live and they are all great.

Hence:

Are you expanding in your education?

Are you expanding in your character?

Are you expanding in your reality?

Are you expanding in your paradigm?

Are you expanding in your goodness?

Are you expanding in your relationships?

Are you expanding in your emotional mastery?

Are you expanding in your mindset?

These are few questions to examine different areas of your life. Because growing and expanding should reach every aspect of your life in order to grow as a whole being. We actually need to grow in every way; mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually…etc. And in all this, we need to keep growing as a well-rounded whole and not like a lop-sided ball.

REACH UPWARD!

Greg

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Make Family Life Easier (& Reach Big Goals) With a FAMILY CULTURE

The culture you’ve created in your life, whether consciously or unconsciously, will determine the results you get in life, more than anything else you do.
Have you created a successful family culture? How do you go about doing it?
What you do by default–what you think about when you don’t have to think, what you automatically do in the morning, with free time, etc–is going to determine who you become and what results you produce… or fail to produce.
Mindset and habits are the two most important factors in a happy and successful life, no matter what that might look like for you.
It determines the love in your life, your health, your fitness, your relationships, your spirituality and everything else!
Your personal and family culture are both the results of and the reproducers of your mindset and habits.

Culture Will Always Triumph

I want to share a few thoughts about setting up the kind of culture you want in your family. Why culture? Because culture will always triumph. And by culture, I mean it’s what you do,  who you are and it’s the things you habitually do all the time.

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Culture is how we interact with each other.

Culture is what you do with your free time.

Culture is your habits.

(Click here to check this great post about the importance of creating a culture)

I want you to think about anything great that you want to accomplish -as a person and as a family- and set up a culture around that. What do you need to do? You need to think through this, create plans, and put things in place that facilitate that culture.

Well, it may actually take some time to create a good culture, especially if you are making a huge shift in your life.

I personally transformed my life and created a culture that’s way different from who I was. For instance, I grew up eating garbage and totally out of shape and then at 16 years old I decided to transform my whole life. Thus, I cut out all the junk food and the unhealthy garbage. Honestly, at the beginning that was really hard for me. I was constantly resisting the temptation of eating all the tasty -yet unhealthy- food. But once I created the culture there was no longer any temptation.

Unhealthy food is only an example for you. But you can transform any aspect of your life and create a culture that supports that aspect well.

Hence, what kind of culture you want?

Do you want a culture of love?

Do you want a culture of service?

Do you want a culture of learning?

The message I am pointing to is that you need to make a culture that’s your default. In other words, a culture that you don’t need any reminders to constantly remind you to do things or rituals. A culture that’s based on your habits. Again, that may take some time to set it up but it will eventually grow and give sweet fruits.

Carefully think through every great thing you want to accomplish, create, and become and then craft a culture around that so it becomes just what you do and who you are.

REACH UPWARD!

Greg

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You’re Sabotaging Your Own Success

So many people thwart their own pursuits of success and happiness. You probably do too. Find out how to stop self-sabotage.
Success in life is achieved by following the laws, patterns and formulas that lead to it. It’s not magical; it’s not mystical; it’s actually quite simple.
But most people sabotage their own efforts to be happy, educated and successful.
The culture you create in your life and family will always win out over every other effort. Transform your culture and you will transform your results!

For years, I have had the privilege of being a mentor and a world traveler. And as people approach me they ask me how can I take my life to the next level? And as I ask them questions about their mindset and habits, I realize that most of us are really sabotaging their own success! Therefore, I want to share this idea about creating a culture of success. Because culture will always shine.

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Education is, perhaps, the most important element of success in anything. Therefore, whatever you want to succeed at you need to study it and create this culture around learning and education.

My challenge for you is to get rid of your massive TV and get a beautiful library.

We have to create a loving, exciting and inspiring culture where it just becomes the default.

Personally, every night I try to read to my children before bed. And they expect that every night. My wife reads to them in the morning and we do family devotionals together where we read inspiring stuff and memorize great quotes and ideas. In other words, we are setting up a culture of learning in our family.

Thus, what’s your family culture for free time? When you don’t have something specific to do, what do you do?

For example, our family culture is ‘grab a book’! If we have 10 minutes free, we will grab a book.

What do you do while you are driving? Do you have great conversations?

Part of our family culture is to listen to an audiobook. And my children are in love with audiobooks!

Thus, I want you to look at every aspect of your life and create your own culture. Look through each aspect of your life; physical, mental, spiritual, social, emotional and financial and ask yourself what is the culture you have created for yourself and for your family.

Remember, you have to create a culture that supports the vision of who you want to become. And make sure you create an educational family culture that supports who you want to become and what you want to achieve.

REACH UPWARD!

Greg

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How to Upgrade Your Life to the Next Level

Are you ready to upgrade your life? I think you are, and I know you can do it! I promise it will make the biggest difference.
After over 20 years of studying personal development and peak performance, I’ve learned that the most effective way to upgrade your life is to upgrade your thinking.
By upgrading your thinking, you will automatically upgrade your life. Here’s one simple technique to do it.

How Can You Upgrade Your Thinking in Order to Upgrade Your Life

To start with, a lot of you know my story. But if you don’t have any idea, here’s a little piece of it.  I grew up in a broken home and I was out on my own in an early age. I went through some really hard years and I wanted so desperately to upgrade my life.

I have been studying personal development and peak performance for over 20 years and I realized that the best way -and the only way- to upgrade your life is to upgrade your thinking.

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The question is: How you can anybody do that?

Well, there is a little trick here that helps. I want you to choose somebody who really inspires you and who’s actually really successful. Then, I want you to think through each of these important areas of life and ask yourself: what would that person think?

Examples:

What would your idol say about your look and appearance?

What would your idol say about your relationships?

What would your idol say about your health?

What would your idol say about your spiritual side?

What would your idol say about your education?

What would your idol say about your financial state?

Note: Your idol can be anyone. In other words, it could be someone from the scripture, some philosopher, a member of your family, a friend… and so on and so forth.

Personally, Theodore Roosevelt Jn is my inspiration of all time. But there are others of course like Gandhi, Benjamin Franklin, George Washington… etc And I always ask myself: What would they do in my situation? What would they think about challenges and obstacles? What would they think of the things I am worried about?

The point is we need to shift those thinking habits and alter them in order to upgrade our life.

Your limiting thoughts keep you from upgrading your life!

REACH UPWARD!

Greg

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How To Remove Your Ego And Live Authentically

How many times has your ego gotten in the way and messed things up? Yeah, me too. Here’s a few great ways to keep the ego out of it.
Your ego was not invited; neither was mine. And when the ego shows up, things often get ugly!
In this video I share a few proven strategies to remove your ego and live more authentically.

Your Ego Is Not Invited!

I have a message that can be uncomfortable but so important. The message is about your ego! How to remove the ‘ego’ from the way? I am sure that you have experienced that a lot in your life -like I have- where the ego gets in the way. And when it gets in the way, things do not go well.

How many relationships are just miserable or have ended because of the ego?

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Common sense is that ego gets in the way, but common practice isn’t that common. Right? Therefore, I want to challenge you -and give you some suggestions as well- to help you remove your ego.

Big NOTE: I am not saying that I am perfect and my ego doesn’t get in my way ever. I wish I was egoless because I know my life would be so much better. But because I know that, I do a better job in keeping it out.

How to Get Rif of Your Ego

Hence, the challenge for you -and me- is to become more authentic and more real. In order to remove your ego, you need to be your very best you.

Some of the things that have worked for me and for many others as I have read about it are:

  • Constantly feed your mind, your heart, and your ideas with good things. Things that make you feel humble and that maintain perspective.
  • Get out in nature. Seeing big trees, different animals, beautiful oceans and wonderful nature views remind you how little you are.
  • You are not always the sharpest tool in the shed. There is alays someone better, stronger, faster, smarter than you and do on and so forth.
  • Check your attitude and your defensiveness.
  • Check your ability of receiving correctness. Getting corrected is uncomfortable but you need to be able to take it in order to improve yourself.

Another BIG NOTE: These suggestions are not to tear you down, but just to remind you that the universe doesn’t revolve around you.

If you remove your ego, everything you are doing will be better.

I challenge you to exercise self-mastery and self-discipline to help you get rid of your ego. And I promise, if you remove your ego from your way, your life will be way much better.

REACH UPWARD!

Greg

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You’re Too Soft and Squishy? Learn How to Be Tough

Are you tough enough? There are many times in life when you and I need to be tough. Far too many of us are still weak, soft and squishy. 🙂
Is your life so comfortable that you are becoming soft and weak? I love a comfortable life as much as you do, but I also realize that too much comfort makes one weak.
Plus, weak people are more focused on pleasant methods than they are on real results!
I’m not saying that we need to remove comfort from our lives, but we do need to do a few important things to make sure that we are tough enough to handle the challenges of life. 

I want this idea that I just love. It’s about being tough. I love studying the life of Theodore Roosevelt junior because that guy was so tough! He was a mean machine! But as a young boy, he was sickly and his dad told him: “Son, you have the mind but you have to make your body” and so he went after it. He got into boxing, then he became one of the rough riders and went out into the west and became one of those rough ranchers. He went to the wars, then he went and traveled the earth and went exploring. Even after his second term as president he went and explored the “rio da Duvida” or the “river of doubt” in the amazon in Brazil, which no other white person had ever explored before. The guy was as tough as nails!

 

And I realized many years ago, especially after being out on my own, that there’s a side of us that has to be tough. We’ve got to be able to endure things. We’ve got to be able to do hard things. Life sometimes will throw challenges at you and some really big obstacles and we have to be able to outgrow and overcome them.

Too many of us are soft and squishy and we’re too weak! 

And I believe in the goodness of people. Most people are just so great! But most people are also soft and squishy! And in a lot of ways, not just physically. But mentally, emotionally and spiritually we’re weak! So how do we get tougher? Well, here’s how to tell if you’re weak. Weak people are more concerned about pleasant methods than  they are about real results.

Let me give you an example of physical fitness. If you want to be in a phenomenal shape, you have to push yourself. You’ve got to get uncomfortable. You’ve got to burn those muscles! You’ve got to go after it.You have to push yourself to where it hurts so bad that you can’t do anymore and then you do a little bit more.  

But weak people want pleasing methods, but tough people are willing to have uncomfortable and unpleasant  methods in order to get great results.

But what about education? Successful people are willing to get up early, study hard and pay a price even when it’s uncomfortable, even when they’re tired, even when there are other pleasant and more enjoyable things to do.They pay the price and guess what! They get great results! They get a world class education! And it’s because they’re willing to pay the price.

So look at yourself. Are you choosing the easier way? It’s easier to just sit around and do nothing. It’s easier to just turn on the t.v. and let it in to your life. It’s easier to go to the gym and only LOOK like you’re working out. It’s easier to just do the minimum amount of work. That’s the easy way. But it’s also the weak way.

So I want to challenge you to get tough. I want to challenge you to look at you’re life and look at all you’re comforts. Now, I love comforts but sometimes too many comforts make us soft and squishy. I think it’s an excellent idea to get out in nature and do some backpacking. And do some things that really challenge you.

Challenge yourself physically, spiritually, mentally, socially and financially. Look at your whole life and ask “Am I too weak? Am I too comfortable?” So get uncomfortable and challenge yourself.

Be willing to face uncomfortable and unpleasant methods in order to get great results. 

Here’s to the new and tougher you.

REACH UPWARD!

Greg

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You Need to Hear This–Face The Facts. Stop Being Hypersensitive.

Is there something you know you need to face, but have been unwilling to face it? It happens to all of us. It’s time to face it and become better.  It’s time to face the facts; even the ones that hurt… especially the ones that hurt!
Stop being hypersensitive to the truth. Let it change you; let it transform you.
Are you too prideful, too fat, too mean, too emotional, too selfish, too anything?
I know it hurts, but we need to face the truth and fix what we can. This video will help you do that.

Be Willing to Have the Hard Conversations

Have you ever avoided hearing something you know you needed to hear because it was hard to hear?

In my own life and in studying the lives of great people, I realized that excellent people are willing to listen to hard things. They are willing to have those difficult conversations and those tough discussions that need to happen. They are willing to face the facts!

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Some of the most helpful things in my life have been those really uncomfortable discussions or conversations. Whether that comes from a book, from a mentor, from my spouse, or from a family member…etc And I have noticed -and I am sure you have too- that a lot of people are hypersensitive about that and they are not willing to accept that.

Thus, I want to challenge you today to take a quick look at yourself and say: “I am willing to listen to the hard truth”  Be willing to let those hard things kick you in the face so you can get better and improve. Be willing to let those ideas and those corrections come into your life. Get a vision of who you want to become and then create a plan and face it.

Are You… Then Face It

☞Are you overweight? ✓Face it!

☞Are you a bad spouse? ✓Face it!

☞Are you neglecting God? ✓Face it!

☞Are your relationships stinks? ✓Face it!

☞Are you a terrible parent? ✓Face it!

☞Are you a mad person? ✓Face it!

☞Are you addicted to some bad habits? ✓Face it!

☞Are you putting yourself in the victim role? ✓Face it!

Look at every aspect of your life and say “where do I need to make those changes?” “where am I dropping the ball?” And be willing to accept the hard truth and be willing to change.

You have to take accountability of every single part of your life. Part of those hard conversations says that your life is exactly what you make of it.

REACH UPWARD!

Greg

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Believe in Yourself, Forgive Yourself, Go For Your Dreams

Are you plagued with self doubt? Do you sometimes struggle to forgive yourself? Do you doubt your dreams? You’re not alone.
I’ve had the privilege of traveling around the world working with wonderful people from all different backgrounds. One of the most common things they tell me is that they struggle with self doubt.
There are ways to overcome that and gain the confidence and competence that you desire.

What’s the Best Part of Traveling 

I feel so blessed. Why? We have the privilege opportunity to travel around the world and we love having these incredible experiences. But the best part of traveling is meeting new people. And it’s been so wonderful to literally meet with thousands of people from different countries, different cultures, and different backgrounds.

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Greg, Calvin and DevonIt has been my privilege and opportunity to mentor a lot of people and to counsel and advise them because of my life experiences and my studies of personal development for over 20 years now. I have been studying voraciously to find clues, success leaves clues, and to find strategies that really work. As I have grown that process, people approach me and share their lives, challenges, and struggles with me. And I count that as a sacred privilege.

Do You Lack a Belief in Yourself?

One of the things I have noticed a lot is the lack of belief. In other words, a lot of people lack a belief in themselves! They don’t believe they can do it and they lack confidence and conviction and what’s called self-esteem. And this really breaks my heart.

Therefore, I want to really encourage you to believe in yourself.  Believe in your greatness! I believe every person on this earth is special. I believe that there is a spark of greatness in each of us. I believe that every single person has something special to share with others.

You have a special work that only you can do!

And I want you to know –even though I don’t know you personally– that you are special, that I love you, that God loves you and that you have greatness in you.

✔Believe in your dreams!

✔Believe in your possibility to change!

✔Believe in your possibility to grow!

✔Believe in your possibility to improve!

⌲Be very strict on making changes and becoming your very best self but  also be kind to yourself and don’t beat yourself up.

✔Be forgiving.

✔Be hopeful.

✔Be faithful.

Believe in your chance to be great and in your chance to live a life that is meaningful. How you do that? You need  simply to switch your thinking habits which give you a negative energy all the time by new positive thinking habits and patterns. Get the negativity out of your mind and you are ready to improve yourself.

REACH UPWARD!

Greg

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How to Work on Yourself to Create a Life You Love

You have the power and the genius in you to create and live a life that you absolutely love! But it won’t happen by accident.
Here are a few things I share:
Life is what you make of it.
Get a world class education.
Nothing gets better until you do.
How to earn more and work less.
Denning Family in TulumHow to live with time freedom and money freedom.
How are you going to set yourself up to succeed?!

How to Create an Existence on Your Terms

Well, I have gone from being timid, shy, terrified, homeless, friendless and familyless to the life I have now where I get to travel around the world with my beautiful family! My family and I are trying to serve and make a remarkable difference in the world. Moreover, we are trying to get the most out of life! –and we are doing it– And we are living deliberately!!

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But wait.. this didn’t happen by accident!

Therefore I am going to give you a couple of tips that will help you improve your life.

You Have to Work Harder on Yourself Than You Do on Anything Else

And most of that comes down to educating yourself. Don’t automatically think of school and all its degrees because that’s not what I meant by education. Education is on all levels. We have to educate our desires, our passions, our emotions, our thinking habits, our mind, our attitude and every single aspect of our life. And so I’ll wrap up this with a couple of questions:

  • What new skills are you learning?
  • What new knowledge are you gaining?
  • How are you setting yourself up to be a linchpin? –and if you haven’t read “Linchpin” by Seth Godin, then please read it because it excellent–
  • How are you setting up multiple streams of income so that if one dries up another is there?

But we are not talking about working more, we are talking about working less and earning more! I know that seems wrong but what I mean is that we  suppose to be creating incredible value in the marketplace, improving people’s lives, and then more than willing to send you money and pay for your services or the value you bring to them. Hence, what are you doing to create that lifestyle? I don’t think anyone should have to work long days and long weeks -of course there are times and seasons for that. For example, when we are creating a new course we work really hard but most of the time we have free time to spend with each other- We have got to have the time and the money freedom to live our lives appropriately. If you are sitting in your place waiting for your ship to come it won’t , you have got to swim out and get it!

The challenge you may face is how are you going to do this right? Well, what worked for me –and I have done this for many years– is I have my morning rituals. Because I realized that if I want to spend a lot of time with my family and on my work and my passions then I have to get up very early. And many opportunities have come just because I get up early and work on improving myself every day.

There are opportunities everywhere and if you are constantly working on yourself you’ll have new skills and new abilities. And what that does, it frees you to choose your path and write your own ticket.

Going from where I was as a young man to living the life I am living now and doing great things that are exciting and wonderful is awesome! But there is one thing that’s even great, if I can do it then you can do it too!  

REACH UPWARD!

Greg

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