GREG'S BLOG How To Choose Happiness In Your Life

Are You Living Unconsciously? Find Out How to Live Deliberately

Are you living unconsciously, and you don’t even know it? Many of us don’t even know that we don’t know.
The best thing you can do with your life is to clearly decide who you want to become and how you want to live.
Once you know that, then you can ‘wake up’ for the hypnosis caused by social conditioning and start living life on your terms.
Life is what you make of it; but you have to do it consciously and intentionally. You and I have to find out what we don’t know and learn to live on a higher plane.

You Have to Know What You Don’t Know

Sometimes, we just grow up in our world and that’s all what we know. And we don’t know what we don’t know. In other words, outside of our reality and outside of what we are currently aware of, we don’t know what’s going on out there. I remember when this idea was presented to me that ‘you can live differently’ and that you don’t have to follow social conditioning or the patterns that society gives to you. And I remember thinking like –Oh! Come on really!?– but then the idea started growing in my mind little by little and I admitted that this may be a possibility though.

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I often meet or observe people who are just existing and living unconsciously. They are kind of sleepwalking in a lot of ways. They go through their routines and they do the things they do and don’t even know why. Are you one of them?

I want to challenge you today to try to find out what you don’t know! And to try to expand your reality. And I think you can do that almost every day. Meaning, you can expose yourself to some kind of education and some kind of situation outside what are comfortable with and what surrounds you.

Wake Up to What You Don’t Know!

  • Why are you eating the way you eat? Have you really educated yourself about what you are eating?
  • Why do you do the things you do?
  • Why do you live the way you live?
  • Why do you live where you live?
  • Why do you do the work you do?
  • Why do you drive the car you drive?
  • Why do you have the friends you have?

These are a couple of ideas that you can start exploring and eventually figure out that there are other ways to do them. And I am not saying you have to change everything, I am just inviting you to be more conscious, more alert, more intentional and more deliberate. I want you to step outside your world and say –wait a minute, I like what I am doing but I want to add this or that and alter my life and make improvements–

Wake Up and Question Your Life

My challenge to you is the following. Sit down with your family and best friends and discuss with them the idea of changing your life. Most importantly, look at every aspect of your life and question it ‘why am I doing that?’ ‘is that the best way to live?’ The goal is to choose the best path for you and not just keep going unconsciously.

Wake up! Get excited, expose yourself to new ideas, challenge conventional thinking, and constantly expose yourself to new ideas.

We are always going to be unconscious of certain things we don’t know yet, and the goal then is to keep learning more and more new things constantly so that you expand and grow and live the best life you possibly can!



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How to Take Off the Masks You Wear and Be More Authentic

Awesome relationships are what makes life so rewarding and enjoyable. We have to really connect in order to create awesome relationships.
Your relationships are so important. Give them the time and attention they need.
There are proven strategies to connect with the people you love in a much deeper way.

Have You Lost Your Authenticity
I just had an awesome experience last week. I went to the canyons with over sixty youth and some other mentors and just had an incredible time with these wonderful young people, creating a environment and a culture of authenticity. We had some physical challenges and mental challenges which were awesome but the best part of the whole experience was getting to break down these barriers. In the states, we’ve become really good about
wearing masks and we have been great about putting up this ‘facade’. Whether it is the clothes, the cars, the house, the appearance, the actions or the things we say and do. And with all that, we have lost some authenticity. In other words, we have either become afraid or intimidated about being authentic and about being real. It’s not about hanging out your dirty laundry so to speak, but it’s  just about being you.

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And that makes us feel vulnerable. Sometimes we want people to think we’re perfect, and then when they find that we’re not, we want them to be forgiving of our imperfections and then -kind of ironically- we hold others to this perfect standard. We like to compare one person’s highlight real with our weakness and things that aren’t going right for us.

I want to challenge you to practice being authentic.  Just be you! Take a minute right now and just examine yourself,

  • How different are you in public and in private?
  • Are you a monster at your house and then once the doorbell rings you’re the kindest person on earth?
  • Are the kind of person who speaks behind people’s back?
  • Are you open about the things you are struggling with and your own challenges?
  • Are you trying to paint this perfect picture?

The Walls Activity

We did this activity called ‘walls’-maybe you have seen it before- It’s where you get together, maintain eye contact,  touch hands and then share things that are deeply meaningful and personal. And I have never experienced anything in my life that can connect people so powerfully  and intimately than just being completely authentic, open and trusting. It has to be the right people in the right situation, but just to touch a hand and to look someone in the eye, and share back and forth is as though you’re walking on sacred, holy ground. There’s a trust there. There’s a vulnerability there. There’s an openness where we get to see each other as a whole person. You get to see the body and the soul. You get a glimpse into the emotion and the mind . You get to see them as a real person, as a human being! We’re going through this journey together and it’s such a great reminder that we’re not here to compete with each other. We’re not here to put each other down. We’re here to build, lift and love. And if we would all do better at this, the world would be so much better! But that’s too big. What you can do is start being better at that yourself. So my challenge to you is to start being more authentic. Start being more open and consistent. Wherever you are, in public or private, at church or work, at school or at home, be you. And be the very best you. Keep striving to grow and improve but just be you. 

No more masks, no more facades, no more smokescreens and trying to hid the real you. Just be yourself and it will start releasing some of those insecurities walls, and barriers that are keeping others out. And we nee to start to make connections and build phenomenal relationships.



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How to START Living Your Dreams and STOP Being a Defeatist

Do you ever find yourself doubting that you’ll be able to achieve your dreams?
Too many of us have fallen victim to defeatism. It’s time to stop that; it’s time to start believing in your dreams again.
Find out how to shift your mindset and believe in yourself.

Have You Ever Given Up On a Dream?

Have you ever given up on a dream? Like you had something you really wanted to do and then you suddenly gave up and thought that your dream is impossible. Because life comes alone and you think you have to be ‘responsible’ for your duties and set aside your dreams. Well, I think a lot of us have felt the same way. And I also think that too many of us are defeatists.

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a person who expects or is excessively ready to accept failure.


demonstrating expectation or acceptance of failure.

It is so tragic as I go out and meet people I find too many of them have given up hope on their dreams and their goals.

I Believe in Your Own Dreams. Do you?

We use the word ‘impossible’ too much and we are pretty quick to believe in other people’s dreams and then to down our own. We do that too often and we use the word impossible too often. We threw down any hope of doing something great, something spectacular, and of living an exceptional life. Moreover, a lot of us think that we have to fit in with the hurt and the massive and that this is how life should be.

But I want to challenge you to think unconventionally. I want to challenge you to dream. If you have stopped dreaming, I want you to come back! Come back to the dream side.

I actually believe in your own dreams! I believe that you can achieve them with hard work. And I believe that you funhave something amazing to offer the world!  So go after your dreams! And if people say that it is impossible, remember the stories of so many people who have broken what was impossible.

And talking about breaking the impossible, I highly encourage you to read the amazing book “Unbroken” by  Laura Hillenbrand. It is about what human being can accomplish.

I Broke the Impossible and You can Do That Too!

Another example of breaking the impossible is my own life! I grew up in a broken home and I was out on my own in an early age. I didn’t have all these elements and resources to become successful, I didn’t have the network, I didn’t have the money, I didn’t have the backing, I didn’t have the support, I didn’t have the family, I didn’t have the right education and I didn’t have any of that stuff. And yet, I live a wonderful life with my wife and our six children! We are literally living our dreams. But we made it happen. I mean it didn’t happen by default. In other words, we found out what needed to be done to live life on our terms and we went and did it. And you can do the same thing! If I can do it you can do it!

Dream Big

Don’t be a defeatist, be a believer! Get up and believe in your dreams and then work on them every day. And hold on! Don’t expect that you will achieve your dreams if you keep doing the same thing over and over. You can’t expect different results by doing the same things, you have to make some changes. And you have to change you! Because as you get better, everything in your life gets better.

So make those changes, become a better person, change your circumstances, change your vision, rekindle that fire in you and that spark in you again and build something awesome!

Get up and make it happen!



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How to Break Your Child’s Screen Addiction (and Yours Too)

Screen time is the new drug. As wonderful as technology is, we have to control it before it controls us. Too many are already struggling with screen addiction.
I love technology. I love my Macbook Pro and my new iPhone 6. But they don’t control my life. Why? Because I don’t let them.
screenEverywhere we look, we see people zoned out and on their phones. What’s in their hands is getting out of hand. 😉
Technology addiction, social media addiction, screen addiction. Too many youth and adults are allowing their lives to slip away while they stare mindlessly at a screen.
There’s a great way to overcome this. That’s what this blog is all about!

Screen Addiction

Well, for years I have had the amazing privilege to be an educational mentor. In fact, I have been able to mentor youths, young adults, and adults in several different countries around the worlds in all kinds of different situations.  But, I have noticed something that’s becoming more and more prevalent which is screen addiction. And as I ask youths and adults about the one thing that is really consuming their time their answers would be about some kind of screens.

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Screens Are Important Though

The problem is that there is a hard balance here. Why? Because screens are important and can help in a lot of ways if we just controlled them. Therefore, I want to help you help your children break their screen addiction -and if you have got one too, help you break yours as well-

Even as many great things that are on all the screens we have got in our lives, we really need to have some disconnected time. Because as much as it helps connect people around the world, there is a real danger that it disconnect people in their own homes.

How To Help Your Children Break Their Screen Addiction

So here’s the deal. If you want to help your children break their screen addiction, you have to do it first. If you are not willing to do this, if you are not willing to put it on the line, then dream on my friend. Your kids will never do it either.

xfHere’s one of the big things you need to do. You have got to have a big goal, big dream, big vision and something great you want to work on. Therefore, I want you to take a time right now and say -what kinds of things I want to do next year?- Pick several things that really drive you and that you are really passionate about. And remember to make it big and exceptional. Find that specific thing that just lights your fire. Wait, I thought this was meant to help my children! This is the question that you are asking yourself right now, right? Well my friend, you need to lead by example. In other words, if you want your children to do something, you have to do it first. You can’t just tell them by words to limit their screen addiction because that’s never going to work. Instead, you need to give them a replacement, a big replacement. Hence, if you pick something big and work on, they’ll too.

And then once you have done that and shared your list of dreams and passions with your kids, ask them about their big dreams. And remember, be willing to sacrifice, be willing to through down some money for their projects and for their goals, and be willing to get involved in what they love to do.

So get excited, set standards for yourself, get your child to get excited about a purpose and eventually you’ll be surprised with how many great things you’ll accomplish and how many great things your children will have accomplished as well.



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Why You MUST Read to Your Children

I sincerely believe that reading to your children is one the very best things you can do with them before it’s too late and they’re moving out.
Reading is perhaps the most powerful habit that anyone of us can acquire.
Bold statement right? But reading great stuff leads to great stuff! Input determines output. And what better way to spend quality time with your children than reading great books to them and inspiring a love of learning!
Whether your public schooling, homeschooling, unschooling or world schooling, read to your children.

I Had a Mother Who Read to Me

I think one of the most important things that you can do for your children is to read to them. And this is a pretty bold statement. Because reading is what makes the biggest difference.

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Strickland Gillian said:

“You may have tangible wealth untold; caskets of jewels and coffers of gold. Richer than I you can never be. I had a mother who read to me.”

That last line of this quote is what really matters because it shows how that no matter you have, a reading mother is what makes the biggest difference.

Well, I grew up in a broken home and I was talking to my sister the other day about reading to her children and how I read to my children. Suddenly, I remembered that when I was little (8 yo) she would sit down and read to me and those were the best memories. Moreover, that actually sparked my love of learning and reading. But to be honest, I struggled a lot at the very beginning because I was a slow reader but I learned how to improve myself with time.

Reading Great Books is What Makes All the Difference

readBelieve it or not, there is a huge benefit that comes from reading to your children. Thus, I want to challenge you today to read to your children every single day without fail. Even if it is just a short chapter. Because first, they start to love learning and then they want to read to themselves and then become lifelong learners and that is probably the best habit you can give your children. And that what made all the difference in my life of going from living in the streets to living a phenomenal life. Second, you get to discuss great principals and great ideas and as you do that, things start to happen. Some changes happen right away and others start happening gradually. Your children  start to make better decisions, they start to be mature,  more self-reliant and more independent. Because they start making connections and start building values and principals in their lives. The third great benefit that comes from reading to your children is the bound, it’s just magical.

No matter what I said, I cannot emphasize enough the importance of reading great books to your children. Wait! Don’t read garbage and think that you’ve done a good job! Read great books and discuss great ideas. The goal isn’t to get through the book, the goal is to get the book through you and through your children.

So, I challenge you from today onward spend time reading with your spouse and with your children and that will make all the difference in your life.



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How Will You Measure Your Life? What Great Cause Are You Living For?

Each of us wants to live an extraordinary life, but how do you measure your success? Money, things, titles, degrees, relationships, happiness?
How will you measure your life? How will you know if you followed the right path for you?
How will you feel when you look back on your whole life from your death bed?
How will you know if you lived well, on purpose and meaningfully?
You and I have got to ask the right questions and find the right answers. This video will help you do that.

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To start with, if you are not actively involved in a colloquium, please get in one. For those of you who may not know what that is, it is where you read great books together and then get together and discuss great ideas. You might be saying now -isn’t that like a book club!- well, yes kind of but it’s got much higher standards and higher objectives. I run colloquium for both youths and adults and you can find that on

snipAnd that leads us to what I want to talk about today. I read an incredible line from the great book Narrative of the Life of Frederick Douglass and I want to share it with you. Which reads:

‘It is of no importance what you put in the other scale.’

This line just struck me!  Our lives are going to be measured and balanced on the scale. And for some things, it doesn’t matter what you put on the other scale. For example, someone said:

“No other success can compensate for failure in the home”

I believe that education is like that. It doesn’t matter what you put on the other scale. If you fail in getting a phenomenal education, nothing else on the other scale will do any good.

Douglass said:

“We can’t judge the validity of slavery by how much sugar is being produced.”

I want you to read the following questions and give yourself some time to answer and consider them.  We all have to take a minute, look at ourselves and say:

  • How do you major your life?

  • What are we doing with our lives?

  • What great cause am I living for?

  • What great principals am I fighting for?

  • What are the great questions you use to major your life?

  • Are you making a difference?

  • Are you living deliberately?

  • Are you alive or just merely existing?




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#1 Factor For Success and Happiness in Life

More than any other thing, this seems to be the determining factor for real happiness and success that I’ve observed as I’ve traveled around the world and worked with thousands of people.
Success leaves clues. There’s a formula; and it’s not that complicated. Happiness is the same way.
There are simple things that you and I can do everyday to ensure our happiness and success… but we have to actually do them.

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The Number One Key for Living a Happy & Successful Life

What we do with ourselves when we don’t have to do anything else is what makes all the difference! Therefore, the number one key for success and happiness in life is your habitual culture.

benBen Carson’s mother was working as a cleaning lady and went over to a professor’s  house and he had a huge beautiful library and she asked him -you read all these books?- and he answered -yeah because reading is what makes the differences-. Hence, she  realized that the children and the people in her neighborhood watch TV, and the children and people in the wealthy one read great books. And so she went home and made a decision which is watching 2 TV programs a week and spending the rest time at the library and learning new things. At first, the children weren’t happy about this decision but she was firm about it and that led them to a love of learning, which led to a desire for a great education and which eventually led to who  Ben Carson is today!

What Are You Doing With Your Time?

And the same can happen for you and for me as well. It’s all about what you do with your free time. Every single qualification for success and happiness comes through habits. And you are the person you are because you have formed the habits of that kind of person.

So what are you doing with your time?

Do you spend it on the phone?

Do you spend it on social media?

Do you spend it on playing video games?

Do you spend it on watching TV?

So in your life and in your home, I want you to take a really great examination: What are your defaults? Are that the kind of things you want to happen?

Because the only way we are ever going to change and become the people we want to become and live the kind of life we want to live; is if we set up those habits and discipline ourselves to live those habits until they become natural. And I promise that this literally will change the course of your life!

Life is exactly what you make of it and you make it by the habits you form!

The kind of habitual culture you create -in large major- determines your life! And that maybe the number one determining factor in how your life turns out!



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How to Set Yourself Up to Success. (You May Want to Stop Hanging With Those People)

Don’t be one of those people who sabotages their own success!
Success leaves clues; it’s a science. It’s not guess work or luck. But you have to follow the proven principles and do the right things in the right order.
Too many people fail to set themselves up for success, and therefore miss out on the incredible life that could have been theirs.
Don’t. Do. That.

Setting Yourself Up to Succeed

I want to share an amazing story in just a second and teach a principle that’s so important which is you have to set yourself up to succeed.

Believe me, it’s never going to happen by default. And it’s not going to happen by crossing your fingers and hoping it happens either! You have to be deliberate about setting it up. A lot of people sabotage their success by not being deliberate in setting themselves up to succeed.

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Lindsey Stirling
Lindsey Stirling

So here’s the story now.

The story is about Lindsey Stirling. Maybe you have seen her videos before. She plays the violin and she is a very talented musician. Well, she had some serious critics  in the beginning though, but then she has blew passed that.

I watched an interview of her recently and I was really impressed by what she said. She said “you have to set yourself up to succeed” and she also said that in order to succeed, she surrounded herself with people who had the same vision, ideals, and standards. And she made it very clear who she was, who she wanted to become and how she was going to live, operate and perform. In other words, she made it very clear the kind of level she wanted to be at. And that’s one of the most important lessons in life!

What Determines How Your Life Turns Out?

Who we choose to spend our time with and how we choose to spend our time will, in large major, determines how our life turns out. Hence, if you are trying to reach excellence, then limit the time you spend with mediocrity. Because who you surround yourself with and where you put yourself has a huge impact and influence in your life. And so if you are constantly around people who are thinking, speaking and acting in mediocre ways, it’s going to have a negative influence on you. That’s just pure science right there!

So, set your vision and then surround yourself with people who have the same vision.

For example, if you want an excellent education, then surround yourself with people who are learning great things. If you want to be in a phenomenal shape, then get around people who are exercising vigorously and going after it. You want to have a positive optimistic attitude, (then read posts like this 😀 🙂 ! get around people that are optimistic and outgoing  and that have the characteristics, qualities, skills, abilities and mindset that you want to acquire. And I promise that it will have the biggest influence in your life!

I challenge you to be deliberate, intense and disciplined. Set yourself up to succeed bu surrounding yourself with excellence in every way.



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