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How to Solve Your Problems with Proven Practices

Life is exactly what you make of it. Yes, there will be problems and challenges, but with the right mind set and the right skill set, you can solve your problems.

I created my life from the ground up; starting in the streets and now living a LIFE I LOVE! Follow these simple steps to learn how to solve your problems.

Indeed, Life Can Be a Little Problematic But…

As we all know, life can be a little problematic sometimes. Right! We can have some tough problems during our life journey. Part of this is my own struggling story that most of you know. I grew up in a broken home, I had some real tough times and I struggled a lot in this specific period of my life.

People can have problems and struggle in almost all their parts of life. In other words, people can marry, have children and still have some serious problems!

And I wanted today to give some proven strategies, that really work, to solve your problems.

#1 Strategy: Get Into a Gratitude Mindset

Before you try to attack your problems, get into a gratitude mindset. In other words, sit down and list all the things that you are grateful for. You need to change your mind, your heart and get into the right perspective.

#2 Strategy: Clearly Define Your Problem 

Clearly define your problem. Usually, defining the problem clearly is half the solution! Because you get to see what really it is. Well, psychologically we get all freaked out! We start fearing all these things that could happen or might go wrong and we end up tormented by things that will never actually happen! Thus, we need to get a clear picture what our problem is and what we are going to do about it. Then, we start identifying things that are in our control and the things that are out of our control.

One time there was a wise man in India said:

“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.”

So it is just no use worrying! Because if it is in your control, then do something about it and don’t worry about it. And if it is out of your control, then you can’t do anything about it so worrying won’t help so don’t worry! Therefore, either way, do not worry!

#3 Strategy: Clearly Identify Solutions

Next, start identifying things that you can do immediately. Meaning, start putting those possible solutions into test. Start implementing them and start working towards the solutions.

It is so important that we face our challenges and  outgrow them!

So the next time a problem comes up, face it squarely, do not get tormented about it and try to avoid it but instead, face it, define it and get yourself in the right mindset, identify what you can do and take action immediately.

REACH UPWARD! 

Greg,

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Whatever else you do, Make Sure You Succeed at Home and Leave a Family Legacy

“No other success can compensate for failure in the home.”
I grew up in a broken home; no fun. I am making sure my children grow up in a loving and strong family. What legacy will you live and leave?

What Are You Going to Leave?


In church today, I met a really nice old man and we had a great conversation together. And it got me thinking about what I’m going to be like when I am older.

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That really got me into this mindset of:

  • What am I going to leave?
  • What am I going to give?
  • What is my legacy?
  • How am I making a contribution?
  • What am I doing that is meaningful and matters?
  • How am I delivering the goods for my children, grandchildren, friends, neighbors and for the whole world?

I hope that you think about this all the time. Who do you want to become and what do you want to leave.I think a lot of people go through life and don’t even think about it. So I  invite you to give it some thought. Who do you want to become? And what legacy do you want to leave?

When you get older, do you want to be surrounded by your children, grandchildren, friends and family? Or, like some people I know that are lonely and my heart literally aches for them. They become bitter and cranky and as the get old, they get old alone. But it’s not enough because you are awesome and you can do more, give more and be more. So go out and make it happen.

Here’s a Hard Lesson For You. Make Sure to Not Do This

IMG_0896I  grew up in a broken home, and my father took off when I was born and I have no relationship with him. And I think about him sometimes; he is all alone and didn’t leave that great legacy and he is just off by himself. And in total sincerity, my heart aches for him! He doesn’t have what I want and so I am putting my focus on building the family, the culture, and legacy that I want to have in my life. Because for me, that is the most important thing in life!

So make sure that you are on the right path, and if you are not on it, make sure you get on it!

You are AWESOME! You can do more, you can be more and you can build more! So go out and make it happen and do things that really make a difference.

 

REACH UPWARD!

Greg

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One Simple Strategy That Will Make Your Life Better Right Now

This may sound crazy, but this one simple strategy has been proven time and again to improve how you feel, your relationships and even your health.
And you can start doing right now!

 

The Power That Will Bring Happiness to Your Life

Today, I want to talk about an unbelievable power! An unbelievable power that will bring HAPPINESS to your life and to those around you. This power will literally bring change to your relationships and to your life, the way you feel and how you approach circumstances and other people.


So, the one thing that you can do today, that will make serious changes in your life, is to SMILE!

a daleI am reading this excellent book “How To Win Friends and Influence People” by –Dale Carnegie– It is like the bible of relationships! You have to get it and read it over and over!

Here’s what the book says:

The key is to wake up and start smiling,but here are two things that can help you smile.       

1. Force yourself to smile.

2. Begin acting AS IF you were happy to start smiling.

I challenge people all the time just to smile for twenty to thirty seconds in the morning just to start their day right. Try to smile at everyone you greet. That changed my life and I am sure that it will change yours too. I was shy, reclusive and timid, but I decided to smile at everyone I meet. It brightens people’s day. I bet you can remember a time when someone smiled at you and it changed your day. I want you to do that.

William James– said:

“ Action seems to follow feeling, but really actions and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not.”

I Bet You Want to Know What Science Says About Smiling

a smileRecently, the modern technology that we have, showed that the front lobe of the brain has a left and a right side. And in that frontal lobe, there is happiness and sadness. So there are two chemicals going through there, dopamine and serotonin. And they found that the higher the dopamine and serotonin, the more happiness. And SMILING releases those chemicals! Smiling has been proven to lower your blood pressure and your stress level as well as give you more peace and rest and improve your relationships.

So I challenge you to start practicing the SMILE POWER today! It can literally CHANGE YOUR LIFE!!

REACH UPWARD!

Greg

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The Most Enjoyable Way to Ruin Your Life. “Bread and Circuses”

Do you find yourself endlessly seeking entertainment, wanting to do only the things you feel like doing?
Do you feel like you are spending your life just to pay the bills?
Panem et circenses–Bread and Circuses, or food and entertainment. That is one of the things that brought down the mighty Roman empire; the mere desire for eating and entertainment without regard for the ‘weightier matters’.

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Bread and Circuses

Today, I want to share with you the most enjoyable way to Ruin your life!! a rome

But first, I’ll tell you a little history. It was 140 BC in Rome, and at that time, the Roman empire was huge and expanding and growing. But, it began to collapse and this was the beginning of the end. Therefore, they wanted to get some political change to win political power. So they brought in a new strategy. So what they did is that they offered to people  the idea encompassed in the Latin phrase “panem and circenses”. Which means, “Bread and Circuses”.

“Bread and Circuses”: ‘It was a superficial means of appeasement. The creation of the public approval not through exemplary, excellent public service or public policy, but through diversion and distraction, or the mere satisfaction of the immediate and shallow requirements of a populace’.  

So, the author wrote about it to describe the selfishness of the common people and the erosion and ignorance of civic duty.  

That was the problem! They only cared about themselves! The only thing they thought about and had hopes for was BREAD and CIRCUSES! And so that is the ticket to RUIN YOUR LIFE!

How to Ruin Your Lifea entertainment

Spending all your time, energy and thoughts seeking entertainment or cheap food, or in other words, spending your whole life just paying the bills, seeking tension relief, entertainment and just doing what is fa successun and enjoyable all the time, will RUIN your LIFE!

 

The Common Denominator of Success” is an excellent essay that I highly recommend and it says that  the common denominator of success is that successful people do the things that unsuccessful people don’t want to do! But here’s a secret, successful people don’t want to do them either, but they DO THEM! They focus their lives on doing meaningful things. And that is also the secret to happiness!

The studies I have gone through say that people who spend their whole lives trying to entertain themselves and  please themselves aren’t  happy. But, they found that the greatest happiness is in those who seek to do things that really matter!

This Is Your Challenge

Here is my challenge for you. Do not fall into the trap of the Romans and only seek Bread and Circuses! Instead, FOCUS on the things that bring real HAPPINESS and real SUCCESS.

REACH UPWARD!

Greg

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Change Your Circumstances by Changing Your Thinking Patterns. “As a Man Thinketh”

“The men and women who get on in this life are the ones who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they cannot find them, they make them.” GB Shaw. Thumbs up for Earl Nightingale and George Bernard Shaw
I completely altered my life by completely altering my thinking patterns and habits. Changing your thinking changes your life.
As a Man Thinketh is one the best books in print. Get a copy and read from it everyday.

How My Life Changed

I want to share a story  about how my life is changed! I remember years ago, I was listening to The Strangest Secret by –Earl Nightingale-. I’ve probably listened to it about 50 times! In that he quoted –George Bernard Shaw– who said:

“ People are always blaming their circumstances for what they as aare. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them.”

That idea just blew my mind! SERIOUSLY! If we change the way we think and what we believe about our circumstances, we can create our own circumstances!  

 I grew up with the “Victim Mentality” where things just “happen” to me. I would say ‘I hope I’ll have a good day’ or ‘I hope that things go ok’…  instead of creating and making things happen!

Here’s what –James Allen–  says in As a Man Thinketh:

“Man is buffeted by circumstances so long as he believes himself to be the creature of outside conditions, but when he realises that he is a creative power, and that he may command the hidden soil and seeds of his being, out of which circumstances grow, he then becomes the rightful master of himself”

Denning Family in TulumThis quote is so powerful and so exciting! And so I went out  deliberately to CREATcreat the life I wanted to live! And I’ve done it. My wife and I live a PHENOMENAL life together with our six children! We travel the world and live in a meaningful and purposeful way! We do work we love! And we have so much HAPPINESS and EXCITEMENT!!

 

I am not saying you should live our life, I am saying you should live YOUR LIFE! 

So what’s your dream and how are you going to achieve it? I promise that a huge part of it will come when you take ownership of your circumstances, and you make it happen.

 

REACH UPWARD!

Greg

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Are You Inadvertently Destroying Your Life? “As a Man Thinketh”

In the mind, we either build the weapons that destroy our lives or the tools with which we can build incredible lives.
Build your character by carefully guarding your thoughts!
As a Man Thinketh is one of the best books in print. Yes, that’s a bold statement. And I believe it! Find out what it did for my life.
Can changing your thoughts really change your life? 

As a Man Thinketh

Book Review:

as aThis book discusses the force of the psyche. It unmistakably clarifies how our contemplations influence who we are and the circumstances we live in. It portrays that a man is exclusively in charge of his own circumstances. This implies our life (and every one of its zones); love life, riches, achievement, our encounters and opportunities are administered by the contemplations we harbor.

We can control these circumstances by our contemplations and the character it deliver. James Allen calls this the “seeds” we plant in our psyches. They will in the long run grow the circumstances we live in. Whether we deliberately pick our musings or not.

In the event that we plant terrible seeds, we can’t hope to gather anything other than weeds. No good thing approaches from awful contemplations. We get back precisely what we convey on the planet (law of fascination.) So convey positivism, love, esteem and that will be precisely what you’ll get back..

 

As a Man Thinketh Quotes

  • “A man’s mind may be likened to a garden, which may be intelligently cultivated or allowed to run wild; but james allenwhether cultivated or neglected, it must, and will, bring forth. If no useful seeds are put into it, then an abundance of useless weed seeds will fall therein, and will continue to produce their kind.”

  • “Good thoughts and actions can never produce bad results; bad thoughts and actions can never produce good results. This is but saying that nothing can come from corn but corn, nothing from nettles but nettles. Men understand this law in the natural world, and work with it; but few understand it in the mental and moral world (though its operation there is just as simple and undeviating), and they, therefore, do not cooperate with it.”

  • “As the physically weak man can make himself strong by careful and patient training, so the man of weak thoughts can make them strong by exercising himself in right thinking.”

Be Careful! Your Thoughts Shape Your Life 

Well, I love to travel this world with my family! We have lived in 12 countries now as a family (Me, my wife and our six kids!). Traveling has always been our great passion!

I want to talk about something which is huge and growing problem. It is the problem of the lack of real clarity about what people believe is right or wrong.

Here’s what James Allen has for us about this topic:

Man is made and unmade by himself. In the armory of thought he forges the weapons which will destroy him. He also creates the tools with which he will build for himself heavenly mansions of joy and strength and peach”.

So it is in our MIND the power to BUILD our life or to DESTROY it!

So I want to challenge you to revisit how you think about think! I challenge you to look carefully at what you think about standards, morals and ethics. I challenge you to be GREAT, to set super high standards, to create the tools that will help you to build a FANTASTIC life and to finally be your very BEST SELF!

Click Here to Get the Book: As a Man Thinketh.

Listen to this brief audio recording about The Hard Deck.

REACH UPWARD!

Greg,

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“As a Man Thinketh”. Changing your Thinking, Will Certainly Change Your Life!

 

 

CAN THOUGHTS REALLY CHANGE YOUR LIFE?

I want to ask a bold question that really caught me by surprise. Can thoughts really change your life? It’s a very bold idea. I think that we’ve all heard of “As a as a menMan Thinketh”, the great scripture and wonderful book by James Allen.

I want to say that yes, changing your THINKING patterns and your THINKING habits, will literally CHANGE YOUR LIFE!

Here’s what Allen has to say:

‘As a Man Thinketh in his heart so is he. It not only embraces the whole of man’s being, but it is so comprehensive as to reach out to every condition and circumstance of his life. A man is literally what he thinks, his character being the complete sum of all his thoughts’.

This is really powerful for me and this book has literally changed my life! I read it over and over and I invite you to read it all the way through at least twice. I also invite you to read a page or two a day from this book as part of your morning ritual. I did this for years and I am still doing it, and it is such a great reminder to put your thoughts in order. Your thoughts about health, circumstances, relationships, character, purpose, living deliberately  and about everything you want to do!

We have got to make sure that our thoughts are leading to the right desires, which lead to the right emotions, which lead to the right habits, which lead to the right destiny and which finally lead to an AWESOME LIFE!

So get this book, study it, read it, learn from it, apply that in your life, GUARD your THOUGHTS CAREFULLY and you have to both CONTROL and DIRECT THEM!

REACH UPWARD!

Greg

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Why Do You Live Where You Live?

Living in Costa Rica is amazing. We love it here. We live here because we want to live here. You too, can live where you want to live. If you could live anywhere, would you live where you do?

WHY DO YOU LIVE WHERE YOU LIVE?

I want to ask you a question: Why do you live where you live?

In 2007, we listened to an audio program called “How to Be a No Limit Person” by –Dr. Wayne W. Dyer– and it really affected us! We were driving through Mexico on our way to Costa Rica for the first time and he asks:

  • Why do you live where you live?
  • If you could take yourself of the earth and look back at the whole earth and choose anywhere to live, where would you live?

Then he asks “why don’t you live there?”

                 

So, I just want to bring that up and ask you:

Are you living where you really want to live?Not because your ancestors moved there or because of a job, but because you really want to LIVE THERE.Kids and me in sea

Right now we are living in southern Costa Rica, walking through the rainforest where there are animals and plants, fresh food and mosquitos, and big, nasty bugs. And there are things like that. For example, we don’t have a water heater so we take cold showers and the power goes out sometimes, but we’re here because we want to be here! We love it! We love the beach, we love the lifestyle! Costa Rica doesn’t even have an army or military and it is such a peaceful place, with a beautiful culture that loves family. It is a good life, but we choose this life.

 

So I just want to challenge you to stop and take a look at your life and see if you are choosing it. But don’t blame anything or make any excuses. Just look at your life and if you chose to live there and do what you’re doing, then that’s great, as long as it is your own choice, it’s deliberate,and you are living life on your terms. If not, then have the COURAGE to CHANGE!

WHY ARE WE LIVING SPECIFICALLY IN COSTA RICA?

First of all, it is because this is one of the unique places in central America where the mountains come right out of the ocean, and so we get the mountains as well as the coast and we love both. We can go enjoy the beach, and we can be in the mountains hiking, running, mountain biking, as well as have cooler temperatures, huge waterfalls and beautiful rivers where we can swim with our kids. Second, we have the opportunity to grow different food. We live on an organic farm from which we get fresh meat, amazing salads, and incredible fruits and vegetables. It’s also an amazing community with cool people from all over the world! 

So I invite you today to choose your place. Get out and explore, learn, and create the life you want to live!REACH UPWARD!

Greg

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Great Books Will Change You, But You Have to Read Them!

“Great books can literally and drastically alter your life. Create a plan and a habit of reading from good books every day. Seek book recommendations from and for leaders. This is probably the most important habit of highly successful people.

Leaders are readers. Start reading and keep reading. Apply what you learn and it will take you to the top. Start studying any important area of your life that you want to improve and thrive in.”

 DO YOU REALLY READ?

Do you have a habit of reading? I just want to encourage you as strongly as I can to start reading. If you don’t have a habit of reading, I want you to start today! And if you have it, but it is a kind of slow, I want you to pick it up and go for it!

This stack is a few of the books that I’ve finished in the last few months. A few of them, HAVE CHANGED ME! They have literally altered the way I think.                                                            

les-miserablesIn the last 90 days, I finished ”Les Misérables” by –Victor Hugo-, and this book is at the top, and probably the best book I have ever read. It is about fourteen hundred pages, but it is amazing! It totally transformed the way I think and the way I see people. I don’t usually cry, but when I finished this book I sat down and wept. It is that powerful!  

I also read many other books — a couple by Shakespeare, some on personal development books and many others.

Check out a list of the best books I’ve read in the last three months, with some awesome quotes and links to each of the books.

THE IMPORTANCE OF READING:

I just want to emphasize how important it is to have a reading habit, that is perhaps the number one habit of really successful people. Successful people read, they read voraciously!

Well you know my story, I grew up in a broken home, struggling and desperate to find the answers. How I could create a life of happiness, how to have the family that I wanted, how to have the lifestyle I wanted and how to be holistically successful in life. And it came because of reading.

Great books have literally changed my life! I am where I am today and I am going where I am going because of great ideas, the great classics. From the  great men and women who have been there and done that, and have captured their great ideas in books. It opens a new world! And like I always love to say: input determines output.

I HIGHLY ENCOURAGE YOU TO START READING TODAY:

So I encourage you today to start right now, put together a plan.  Most people haven’t read a book since their last graduation. The average American reads less than one book a year!

I’m going to challenge you to read a book or two each week, and find the best books ( don’t know where! Click HERE ).

So read , start today and you will be shocked, amazed and so pleased with the changes and the positive benefit that comes from a voracious reading habit! So have a real plan to get great input to your mind so you can have a great output in your LIFE!

REACH UPWARD!

Greg

How Others Feel After Interacting With You is the Test of Real Leadership

We are all leaders!
How others feel after having interacted with you will be the major determining factor in the level of influence you have in their lives.
You and I always have the option of being inspirational, even in difficult situations. This requires thought and skill; and we all need it.

We Are All Leaders:

I want to teach you one of the most important lessons I have ever learned about LEADERSHIP and INFLUENCE.

First, I hope that you are a LEADER in your home and if you’re not, PLEASE BECOME ONE!! I hope that you’re a leader in your life. Whatever you do in your life, even if you are the lowest employee in your work, you can still be a LEADER because you do your work with excellence! You carry yourself with excellence and you have a positive influence. Every single person on this earth is your superior and my superior in some way, and in that way we can learn from them.

Every person has a circle of influence and that may be in school, work or church… Wherever you are, you can be a leader and here I think is the greatest lesson.

 

I want to teach you one of the most important lessons I have ever learned about LEADERSHIP and INFLUENCE.

First, I hope that you are a LEADER in your home and if you’re not, PLEASE BECOME ONE!! I hope that you’re a leader in your life. Whatever you do in your life, even if you are the lowest employee in your work, you can still be a LEADER because you do your work with excellence! You carry yourself with excellence and you have a positive influence. Every single person on this earth is your superior and my superior in some way, and in that way we can learn from them.

Every person has a circle of influence and that may be in school, work or church… Wherever you are, you can be a leader and here I think is the greatest lesson.

Feelings and Emotions

I have just finished  what is now my all time favorite book  “Les Misérables” by –Victor Hugo– and this book is just spectacular. One of the greatest things about this book is how it makes you feel. The narrator is a master storyteller and  teaches great principles.  And I remember stopping frequently throughout the book just to FEEL IT!

It was a great reminder that life is about feelings and emotions.Our heart is the center of life and the power house. In other words, the heart is what drives everything! So most of what people do what they do because they want to feel something. Even the worst actions can be driven by the want to feel happy, good, loved, safe or appreciated. So the lesson is FEELINGS. It is about how do others feel and how do you feel.

So my challenge is to evaluate how you make others feel after interacting with you. Right now in the role you have, in your circle of influence, and in whatever situation, what will people remember about the way you made them feel?

When you walk into the room, are people excited, alive, energized, inspired, edified and happy to see you or is it the opposite? It’s not necessarily what you said or did, but the feeling you brought.

Understanding how we make others feel is the most important lesson in LEADERSHIP! We should make others feel excited, inspired, and happy.

To Improve Yourself Ask These Questions

Take every role in your life, every aspect  and ask yourself:

  • How do I make others feel?
  • How will they remember me?
  • How will they feel about me?                                                                   

Even in the most difficult situations, we can do them in such a way that the feeling is Good. So let’s not be abrasive and tactless. Let’s not be rough rude but instead let’s be patient, kind, loving and influential, and let’s go about our lives giving off good feelings. We should go about our life trying to make every person we interact with feel a little bit better for having been around us.

So starting today, evaluate that and let’s start making better choices and better decisions about how we influence others, their feelings, and thoughts.

REACH UPWARD!

Greg

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