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How To Like Yourself

We love to memorize great things. Every morning my wife, my children and I sit around the breakfast table and do our morning devotional. During this time we memorize powerful scriptures, quotes and poems.

Below is a poem we are memorizing right now. I invite you read it carefully multiple times, think about it and then memorize it.

Myself

Edgar A. Guest

“I have to live with myself, and so,love
I want to be fit for myself to know;
I want to be able as days go by,
Always to look myself straight in the eye;
I don’t want to stand with the setting sun
And hate myself for the things I’ve done.

I don’t want to keep on a closet shelf
A lot of secrets about myself,

And fool myself as I come and go
Into thinking that nobody else will know

The kind of man I really am;
I don’t want to dress myself up in sham.

I want to go out with my head erect,
I want to deserve all men’s respect;
But here in this struggle for fame and pelf,
I want to be able to like myself.
I don’t want to think as I come and go
That I’m bluster and bluff and empty show.

I never can hide myself from me,
I see what others may never see,
I know what others may never know,
I never can fool myself- and so,
Whatever happens, I want to be
Self-respecting and conscience free.”

 

REACH UPWARD!

Greg

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Finding God

I just listened to this great song by Kari Jobe about finding God and I wanted to share it with you.

The most oft repeated scripture in the Bible is:

“Seek and ye shall find, knock and it shall be opened unto you.”

The Lord does not merely want us to seek him…He wants us to find  Him, and know Him better.

How to find God is the most critical question in mortality.  Finding Him is the greatest reward in mortality.

What are you doing to seek Him?

Listen to my Isaiah classes for beginners to understand the Bible better and find God through His word.

Understanding the Bible. Incomparable Isaiah Part 1

Understanding the Bible. Incomparable Isaiah Part 2

Understanding the Bible. Incomparable Isaiah Part 3

Understanding the Bible. Incomparable Isaiah Part 4

Understanding the Bible. Incomparable Isaiah Part 5

Understanding the Bible. Incomparable Isaiah Part 6

Understanding the Bible. Incomparable Isaiah Part 7

Understanding the Bible. Incomparable Isaiah Part 8

Understanding the Bible. Incomparable Isaiah Part 9

Understanding The Bible: Incomparable Isaiah Part 10

Understanding the Bible. Incomparable Isaiah For Beginners Part 11

Understanding The Bible. Incomparable Isaiah Part 12

Understanding the Bible. Incomparable Isaiah Part 13

Two Commitments For A Remarkable Marriage

Life is often a matter of ‘gettin-er-done’; of doing the things we must. In the aspects of life that really matter, we’ve got to move beyond “I should do that” to “These things I will do.”

Marriage is one of those critical aspects of life. Certainly in the ‘Must Succeed’ category.

Winston Churchill once said that,

“it is of no use saying “I did my best.” You must succeed at doing what is necessary.”

I believe these two commitments are part of ‘doing what is necessary’ for a successful marriage.

1 Commit to make the most of yourself.

Many individuals consciously, or unconsciously, commit to make their spouses better. But too few make and keep the commitment to consistently improve themselves.

Make it easy for your spouse to stay attracted to you. Don’t let yourself go… emotionally, socially or physically!

-Some couples take up permanent residence in their sweats, and then consume junk food until they push the elasticity limits of those sweats. Get in shape and stay there! Eat well together. Exercise together. Continue trying to look good for each other.

-Avoid the temptation to become social recluses. Go out together to meet and serve other people. Be active, kind neighbors and friends.

-Fight off the tendency to let go of your emotional control. You are NOT a victim of your emotions, even during ‘that time of the month.’ You wouldn’t act like that in public (I hope), so don’t act like that at home. I think it is tragic that we allow some of our worst behavior to be toward the people who mean the most to us, and we are ‘on our best behavior’ in public among strangers.

It may be helpful to you, as it is to me, to pick someone you admire and ask, “Would I act like this if he or she were here?” When it comes to emotional mastery, if you wouldn’t behave like that in front of someone you admire, then certainly don’t do it with the most important person in your life!


The Love Triangle

339393_10151036270962412_1171794137_o-There exists a beautiful Love Triangle. Picture it in your mind. At the top is point is God. The other two points are Husband and Wife. As you each move upward, drawing closer to God, you automatically draw closer to each other. We draw closer to God by striving to live by ‘every word that proceedeth forth from the [His] mouth.” In other words, study His teachings and apply them in your life. Be Christ-like in all that you do, especially in your marriage.

-Commit to be a life-long learner. Read and study. There is never a graduation from education! Learn and grow and share what you learn with your spouse. Study personal development and marriage.

-Commit to be financially wise. Stop wasting money. Pay tithing. Pay yourself at least 10%. Consumerism is consuming us. Don’t get sucked in!

-Commit to prioritize your life and act accordingly. Put first things first. If secondary things remain unaccomplished because you are giving time to your highest priorities, so be it. Too many of us give our precious time to the things of lesser importance.

2 Commit to love and serve your spouse.

Love is a choice! It is not something we fall into and out of. You are not a victim of your emotions. We decide! We were sent here with the power to choose and act, not just to be acted upon.

Someone once said,

“Choose your love and love your choice.” Enough said.

-Make service a habit. Look for small ways to serve your spouse every day, and then discipline yourself to serve even when you don’t feel like it. In fact, especially when you don’t feel like it. That is when it is needed most.

1185922_10151869812947412_1422219833_n-Consistently do kind and romantic things for your spouse. Some of these will be small and simple, like a love note in the fridge or a letter of sincere gratitude. (Yes, the post office still sends letters. 😉 Other times, you will be richly rewarded for doing something great. My wife recently took a trip. She expected all of us (5 kiddos and me) to pick her up at the airport. I surprised her by getting some friends to take the kids overnight so we could stay at a nice hotel and have an awesome date together.

Don’t become part of the statistics.

Up to 60% of marriages in the US are ending in divorce, and the median length of marriage is only 11 years. This is a very sad trend. These numbers reveal even sadder stories of hurt, sorrow, despair, anger and misery. Do not allow your marriage to become one of these statistics.

Marriage should be, and for me is, a wonderful adventure of love, learning, growth, work, play and service.

Married life can, and should be, FANTASTIC!194503_1817019538008_472500_o

If yours is not, then do something about it. Act on this marriage advice. Make better decisions; become a better person. Think more, do more, be more. Again, avoid the temptation to try to improve your spouse. Begin with yourself; it will inspire your spouse to growth with you.

Your marriage will not succeed by default. You have to plan for it, prepare for it and work at it. You can’t put your marriage on cruise control or auto pilot and expect to succeed. We have to be actively engaged in the relationship.

Expect it to be wonderful and then do something today, and every day, to make that way!

Here’s to your AWESOME marriage!

REACH UPWARD!

Greg

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How to be Super Sexy (The Ashton Kutcher Guide)

ashton “Be Smart, Be Thoughtful, Be Generous. Everything Else Is Crap!”

The above statement was part of Ashton Kutcher’s acceptance speech of 2013 Teen Choice Award, where he told the audience there are three keys for success.

1 Opportunity– Which he says looks a lot like hard work.

2 Be Sexy– ”The sexiest thing in the world is to Be Smart, Be Thoughtful, Be Generous; Everything Else Is Crap!”  All the other garbage they tell you is just crap; don’t believe it.

3 Build a life, don’t just live one.

Be Smart
Be Thoughtful
Be Generous

Everything Else Is Crap!  All the other distorted views of what really matters in life are simply just crap.

Be Smart

There are only two or three ways to get smart.  You’ve heard the terms ‘book smart’ and ‘street smart.’  One comes from study, the other from experience.  There is one more that comes from Heaven: inspiration/revelation.  I believe God teaches willing learners.

Get a great education.  There is never a graduation from education.  Read fantastic books; lots of them.  Become very smart in your chosen field and in your key responsibilities-marriage, parenting, finances, health, God, etc

Too many of us go through life thinking we know all the answers… or never even realizing there’s a question.  Fight off ignorance.  If you have a task, study it; become thoroughly educated about it.  Learn from others’ mistakes and failures.

Most importantly, be smart about life.  Study the principles of success and happiness.  Design and create a smart and fantastic life.

Oh yeah… being smart also means we stop doing stupid things.  Take a good, honest look at your life, and eliminate the stupid.  Bad habits, bad relationships, stupid decisions… you get the point.

Be Thoughtful

It’s so easy (yet miserable) to be selfish; to only think about ‘how it affects me.’  So many of us go through life without giving much thought to the well-being of others. We get consumed by our never ending to-do list.  It’s always go, go, go; and taking care of all our things.

We need to slow down a little, consider our relationships and our interactions with others.  Perhaps you could set aside a little time each morning or evening to think about who you could love more, and what you might say or do to have a positive influence.

When was the last time you spent the day looking for someone to cheer up or serve? 

When was last time you gave a significant amount of time, effort and resources to making someone elses life better?

We need to become thoughtful people, not merely do thoughtful projects, that we then check off our do-to lists.  It needs to become a habit-a part of who you are.

Place reminders all around you.  Get up every morning and ask God to lead you to someone who needs your help that day.  Be considerate.  Be kind.

Make it your life mission to help everyone you meet to feel happier.

Help others achieve what they want, and in doing it, you’ll have achieved what you want.

Be Generous

In a culture consumed by consumerism, it’s sometimes difficult to even stop to think about being generous.  Our minds are filled with bills, and all things we need or want to buy.

No matter how much we earn, we’ve been conditioned to spend it all, and a little more.  So we get the false sensation that we don’t have quite enough to generous.

What a sad lie!

We live in one of the most affluent societies in the world, in fact, in the history of the world.  There is enough and to spare.  And the more that we give, the more will come back into our lives.  Someone said,

“You can never give a crumb to the Lord without receiving a loaf in return.”

Sometimes we give a little token amount to some charity, and go to bed that night feeling like we’ve made a difference.  But I think we can and ought to give more.  C.S. Lewis wrote that we ought “to give until it pinches us; that there ought to be things we would like to do, but cannot, because our charitable expenditures exceed them.”  This too becomes a habit, a part of our being.

If you struggle with generosity, like I used to (because of a lack mentality I acquired while living on my own at 16) then use the as-if principle.  Act as-if you were a very generous person, and soon you will be.

Look for opportunities to share.  If you have been blessed with affluence, use it to benefit those around you.  We are all wealthy in something.  Perhaps it’s time, talents, resources, knowledge or skills.  Be generous with what God has given you, and He will be generous with you.  But be sure to do it with a pure heart.  Giving a gift grudgingly does you no good.

Make the time and effort to develop the wonderful characteristic of generosity.

Be smart.  Be thoughtful.  Be generous.

Be Sexy!

REACH UPWARD!

Greg

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