“Be Smart, Be Thoughtful, Be Generous. Everything Else Is Crap!”
The above statement was part of Ashton Kutcher’s acceptance speech of 2013 Teen Choice Award, where he told the audience there are three keys for success.
1 Opportunity– Which he says looks a lot like hard work.
2 Be Sexy– ”The sexiest thing in the world is to Be Smart, Be Thoughtful, Be Generous; Everything Else Is Crap!” All the other garbage they tell you is just crap; don’t believe it.
3 Build a life, don’t just live one.
Everything Else Is Crap! All the other distorted views of what really matters in life are simply just crap.
There are only two or three ways to get smart. You’ve heard the terms ‘book smart’ and ‘street smart.’ One comes from study, the other from experience. There is one more that comes from Heaven: inspiration/revelation. I believe God teaches willing learners.
Get a great education. There is never a graduation from education. Read fantastic books; lots of them. Become very smart in your chosen field and in your key responsibilities-marriage, parenting, finances, health, God, etc
Too many of us go through life thinking we know all the answers… or never even realizing there’s a question. Fight off ignorance. If you have a task, study it; become thoroughly educated about it. Learn from others’ mistakes and failures.
Most importantly, be smart about life. Study the principles of success and happiness. Design and create a smart and fantastic life.
Oh yeah… being smart also means we stop doing stupid things. Take a good, honest look at your life, and eliminate the stupid. Bad habits, bad relationships, stupid decisions… you get the point.
It’s so easy (yet miserable) to be selfish; to only think about ‘how it affects me.’ So many of us go through life without giving much thought to the well-being of others. We get consumed by our never ending to-do list. It’s always go, go, go; and taking care of all our things.
We need to slow down a little, consider our relationships and our interactions with others. Perhaps you could set aside a little time each morning or evening to think about who you could love more, and what you might say or do to have a positive influence.
When was the last time you spent the day looking for someone to cheer up or serve?
When was last time you gave a significant amount of time, effort and resources to making someone elses life better?
We need to become thoughtful people, not merely do thoughtful projects, that we then check off our do-to lists. It needs to become a habit-a part of who you are.
Place reminders all around you. Get up every morning and ask God to lead you to someone who needs your help that day. Be considerate. Be kind.
Make it your life mission to help everyone you meet to feel happier.
Help others achieve what they want, and in doing it, you’ll have achieved what you want.
In a culture consumed by consumerism, it’s sometimes difficult to even stop to think about being generous. Our minds are filled with bills, and all things we need or want to buy.
No matter how much we earn, we’ve been conditioned to spend it all, and a little more. So we get the false sensation that we don’t have quite enough to generous.
What a sad lie!
We live in one of the most affluent societies in the world, in fact, in the history of the world. There is enough and to spare. And the more that we give, the more will come back into our lives. Someone said,
“You can never give a crumb to the Lord without receiving a loaf in return.”
Sometimes we give a little token amount to some charity, and go to bed that night feeling like we’ve made a difference. But I think we can and ought to give more. C.S. Lewis wrote that we ought “to give until it pinches us; that there ought to be things we would like to do, but cannot, because our charitable expenditures exceed them.” This too becomes a habit, a part of our being.
If you struggle with generosity, like I used to (because of a lack mentality I acquired while living on my own at 16) then use the as-if principle. Act as-if you were a very generous person, and soon you will be.
Look for opportunities to share. If you have been blessed with affluence, use it to benefit those around you. We are all wealthy in something. Perhaps it’s time, talents, resources, knowledge or skills. Be generous with what God has given you, and He will be generous with you. But be sure to do it with a pure heart. Giving a gift grudgingly does you no good.
Make the time and effort to develop the wonderful characteristic of generosity.
Be smart. Be thoughtful. Be generous.